Most of us recognize those passages after they've happened. A shift in perspective may occur, not so much in values or what interests us, but in how we view ourselves in the broader context of the world. With this usually comes acceptance; that's the age-day. My trip to the East Coast for the ILBA solidified my recent age-day for me, and my friend Susan played a pivotal role.
My plan was to visit her in New Hampshire for three days and then spend four days in New York doing what I usually do while there: plays, dining, drinking, galleries, art and more art.
Susan and I have known each other for over 30 years. We started at the same executive recruiting firm in Beverly Hills, and along with another team member, split from that business and formed our own company. This after a little over a year in the headhunting biz. I was the instigator, but Susan was right in there with me. If you looked at the two of us back then, you might of thought we were a mismatch.
In many ways, we couldn't be more different. She comes from a close-knit family, albeit one with a few kinks. Still, her family dramas could be shown on network TV whereas those of my family could only be viewed on late night cable. Susan is friendly and outgoing and makes friends easily. I'm shy, but forced myself to drop my reserve during my business years. My natural temperament suits a writer's life, but my "acting" extroverted permanently fractured that protective shell. I'm a combo now. During this visit, I discovered more of the ways we're the same.